Тот, кто vs. Тот, который

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Can someone please give me a slap to the face as to when I'm supposed to use one over the other? In my essay that was recently corrected (Thank you guys sooo much, btw!)))), I have

"Вспомним, что величайшие в мире люди это те, которые занимались одной или двумя вещами."
and later I had
"...мы должны, нет, обязаны превратиться в кого-то, которым гордились бы наши предки и потомки."
which was corrected to
"мы должны, нет, обязаны превратиться в кого-то, кем гордились бы наши предки и потомки."

My question is - WHYYY!? Oy, vey what a headache.

Also, because quite a lot of corrections were made, I ended up writing another paragraph so fill up the 2-page limit. Could someone check that for me, please?

В конце концов, талант нужен всем по эволюционным причинам. Пусть Обломов лежит на диване, никто не выйдёт замуж него. Это называется «естественный отбор». Если все женщины выходили замуж за Обломовов, культура и искусство, всё прекрасное в жизни, вымрут. И за ними это мы стоим в такой очереди.

Comments

[zespri.livejournal.com]

To wrap up:
- Usage of singular verb in this case is mainstream
- Usage of plural verb is also possible, however much less frequent
- For a lerner of russian it's advisable, to always use singular in this case, this way you'll never go wrong, and don't have the risk to sound "unnatural", and in most cases you will sound unnatural if you use plural here.
- However it's good to be aware the plural usage, because it can occure in literature, even well known writers use it when they see fit.